If people with safe normal and secure lives urge others to be “responsible,” they are not being stodgy or closed-minded. They are seriously trying to explain to the other, less reliable, person that they should turn some of their energy and resources inward and build themselves up before they go around spending them on other people. Alcoholics and drug addicts, in particular, are in the habit of giving away or giving access to their resources to everyone without discrimination or discernment, and then feeling bitter and resentful about it when their goods and services are devoured up by ungrateful beneficiaries without so much as a ‘thank you’ in return. At this point, the drunk or addict tends to complain loudly and victimise themselves publicly or even become violent in order to express their anger or resentment. However, they set themselves up, because they gave others access to their resources, without first discerning who is trustworthy to receive and who would waste the gift.
Alcoholics and their sacrifices tend to be frequently and continually combined and their communities simply do not seem to give the slightest thought to these sacrifices. There is a reason for that. It is not because the sacrifice itself was inappropriate or lacking benefits or worth. It is because these gifts were wasted on fellow drunks and addicts who are not capable of appreciating the worth of their own resources, let alone that of another. In fact, the rejection is not even personal. It is about the incapacity of emotionally void individuals to see, recognize or understand the love and warmth and comfort of a “responsible” life. With that in mind, the next time you hear someone urging someone else to be more responsible, you may consider what that means and why they are actually saying that. Can the other person really sustain a life of stability, or is it impossible for them in their current emotional and psychological state? CMM Technology is here to bring employee drug and alcohol testing to your workplace so that you do not have to make these decisions without some scientific evidence upon which to base your decisions. Call CMM Technology today:(+61) 1300 79 70 30.